Monday, March 10, 2008
I changed my mind. So sue me.
I have made an unpopular move this morning by letting Monster’s IEP team know that I am not ready to move him to the behavioral room. I can’t. It’s a feeling in my gut – it makes me feel awful when I think about it. The ONLY person who is congratulating me on following my gut is Monster’s psychologist, who says that what I told her makes it seem like it isn’t a good fit for him.So now even hubby is disgusted with me for changing my mind and slowing everything down. Because of my gut feeling that it’s wrong. I can’t give any better description than that, so I have no way of explaining why I don’t want him there. I don’t. It’s not the place for him. I wish I knew why. And I wish that sometimes my friends and family would back me up by saying, “You know what’s right for your kid. If this doesn’t feel right, then keep looking” instead of acting like I’m some sort of nut who is holding my son back from success.
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You are right to follow your instincts. This is a scary road to travel and you want to be very comfortable with the decisions you make for your child. For him and for yourself. I would advise that you take a step back and make certain that your decision is based on wanting the best placement for Monster and not coming from a place of your own fear or uncertainty of letting go and giving over control to others. I was very concerned over sending my little guy off to preschool and then again to kindergarten but when I sat down and really thought about it I was afraid that no one would understand or care for him in the same way that I do. Good Luck in your journey.
Thanks, Lori-Ann.
I have a meeting Wednesday morning with Monster's team at his current school, the team he'd have at the new school, the special ed coordinator, and my parent advocate. We'll hash it out there I guess. Hubby doesn't want to come because he's mad at me.
I also got ahold of the head of special ed in our school district to ask her why every surrounding school district has an ASD program except ours. And I emailed the state's Dept of Education autism specialist to find out what I can do to get one in our school.
My problem is my own fear and uncertainty may also be keeping Monster out of a place that might be good for him.
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