"Husband is unsupportive and rude..."

Yesterday was the second home visit from the caseworker for Monster’s day program. She’s supposed to be discussing with us what sorts of things she can help up with for M, what sort of services she has available, books for up to read in our spare time (haha!), but it’s obvious what she’s doing. She’s observing us. She’s checking on the housing situation (and the house was/is trashed right now, BTW), she’s seeing how we interact with Monster. She listens for the tones of our voice and the things we do wrong when it comes to caring for our son.
It’s annoying enough, except that Hubby hates these people (they have promised too much, let us down too much, hurt our child too much [and I mean “these people” in general – teachers, principals, caseworkers, aides, etc] and he is barely civil to this woman. I can picture her writing in her notes, “Sullen, unsupportive husband”. And while I don’t care what these people think of us, I think it may be nicer if Hubby just TRIED to be friendly for once.
Oh well – at least I get to come out looking as the victim in all of this; “Monster is supported by his mother, while husband is present but emotionally distant.” It’s funny, because he isn’t like that at all. It’s like he’s playing a game with these people. I don’t get it, but maybe he needs to understand that one of these people may in fact want to help us with M and maybe we should give them a chance.
We’ve been giving them chances for the past two + years. Nobody has really pulled through for us, without having me behind them, forcing then in the direction I want Monster taken.